When parents don’t enforce the limits they set, or don’t set any at all, the teens feel uncertain about what they can get away with, so they keep pushing the envelop… until they go too far. The identity of who is in charge and has the power in the relationship gets muddled. Teens lose their trust in their parents’ ability to parent, and disrespect grows.
To this day, I thank my lucky stars I wasn’t able to pluck her out of that clothes rack before she stopped screaming. If I had, I would have tried to bribe her to prevent my own embarrassment, anything to make her be quiet. I never would’ve learned my valuable lesson—